Is it possible to die of loneliness? Are we guilty of downplaying the importance of human connection and fulfilling relationships?
The importance of human connection
We’ve understood for a long time that humans are social beings. Every culture has various customs and traditions that are meant to bring people together. Whether it’s New Year’s parties, holiday meals, celebratory weddings, or office get-togethers, we’re always seeking to spend time in the company of those important to us.
A deep sense of love and belonging is an irresistible need of all people. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong. When those needs are not met, we don’t function as we were meant to. We break. We fall apart. We numb. We ache. We hurt others. We get sick. -Brene Brown
The dangers of loneliness
According to this Forbes article, loneliness can be a bigger health risk than smoking or obesity. “The brain goes into a self-preservation state that brings with it a lot of unwanted side effects,” says Dr. John Cacioppo, Professor of Neuroscience and best-selling author.
This state increases the level of the hormone, cortisol, which can create different negative physical effects, including sleeplessness and higher blood pressure.
Human connection in the digital age
In some ways, it can be argued that we are more connected than ever. Social media platforms like Facebook and Twitter can keep us up-to-date with all our friends’ lives, and allow us to share our thoughts and experiences with everyone.
When that becomes a substitute for in-person human connection, however, it can create a different kind of loneliness. The constant awareness of everyone else’s lives can make us feel isolated, or left out.
Measuring our own successes against those of our friends can increase feelings of inferiority and self-doubt. Being vulnerable and honest in relationships can feel more daunting.
It’s important to keep on developing authentic and warm connections. Meeting with friends face-to-face, expressing affection, and letting down our guard, can make all the difference in our digital age.
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